Open Letter | Individuality

Dear readers,
Do you find you get your epiphanies in the shower?
I’m a little different. Most of the time I’m rushed in the mornings so that I can catch my bus on time to get to work before the hour, so my epiphanies are skipped in the shower and saved for my bus rides.
So during my trip, I was thinking about what a friend said to me the other day “individuality is expensive!” because she had spent a large amount of money on knee-high socks with a particular pattern. But then it had me thinking specifically about individuality without fashion …
So now I have some things to say and some questions to ask.
We all know fashion is a particular type of art form which everybody loves and is involved in, whether they like it or not. We can’t help it, when we see something that we like we want it. Bad.
It doesn’t even matter what it is we’re seeing, it could be singlets shorts and thongs (flip-flops) or an amazing and insane avant-garde garment– whatever the case or design, fashion catches our eye.

Then after that eye-catching moment the thoughts begin to circulate, like “Hey! I like this. I’ll wear this because it is me and I want to express myself and who I am as a unique individual” and then we buy the item from this subconscious level. But are our choices always based on what we want to wear or what media and advertising makes us think we should wear?

Or have you ever experienced a moment where you have chosen a garment and then a piece of you breaks inside when you realise it doesn’t fit or something makes some part of your body look bigger/smaller/weird?

I don’t know about you, but it kind of gets to me sometimes and it seems to put a damper on my self-esteem and all I can think of is “Omigosh this is a bloody first world problem! Get over it!” because, so what? If you can’t wear certain things then don’t worry about it, wear what suits you, but don’t let fashion rule over you.


Don’t get me wrong, I love fashion. However, ladies and gents, my point today is individuality and what makes us ‘naturally us’ without the fashion and without the makeup. Because our individuality isn’t necessarily about what we wear, individuality is also about what makes us naturally, genetically different.
Other than our careers and life-goals, our natural individuality is one of the ways we make our imprint on the world and in people’s heads and hearts. Sometimes, it’s what we’re known for. It might be that you have big, fantastic eyebrows like this guy: Photobucket

or a large nose like this guy: — Adrien Brody, courtesy of rotten tomatoes)
But this doesn’t make them any less attractive. Heck, it could even be that you are a genuinely nice, funny person that people love being around. Whatever you have, it’s yours and you should embrace it to the point where people would think it absurd to not like you and those things that make you unique.

It’s not an antagonizing struggle for me to deal with how I look. I mean, like everyone, I have my bad days and I do remind myself every now and again to not worry about the opinions of others.
But why does it bother me on the days that I do feel like I look horrible? Why are we bothered by our body’s own uniqueness?
I suppose one contributing factor would be that we do live in a very materialistic world. We’re constantly faced with ‘look like this, wear this, do this, buy this to be accepted’ and even though it doesn’t really matter (because acceptance should be focussed on how you want to appear), it still heavily impacts on our thoughts to point where some of us develop a negative body image, which is incredibly unhealthy physically and mentally.
But nothing I say or do is going to stop this from happening because advertising and companies makes so much money from sending out these messages and they prey on people who are vulnerable to these kinds of messages because they are sensitive about their body image. Yes, yes, I know. It’s a well-known fact.
But if we all know it and it affects us in such a way that it creates such a negative impact and view on ourselves, then shouldn’t we aim to make it stop?
So, with that question posed, let me ask some another two:
What can we do to feel comfortable in our own skin and what do you do to feel good about yourself?
I try to think differently. It’s easier said than done, but it does work. I also know that support from our friends and family helps as well.
I also aim to live a healthy lifestyle and treat myself once in a while.
It’s also a good thing to think about appearance – like how you want to appear to other people, so not just how you dress or how tall or short you are, but how your personality comes across. Think about what you want people to see.
Remember the nice things people have said about you. It’s very easy to let one negative comment completely override the compliments you have received.
Remembering quotes is also another pretty awesome one. I heard a quote the other day that will probably stay with me for life, which is ‘I have the power to define me’. BAM!
I’ve also heard of people using a whiteboard marker to write on their mirror so they can read a quote every day that makes them feel good too.
I guess the most important thing you can do is to realise that you should take it easy on yourself and respect and accept yourself.
Our own natural individuality creates all the components that make up “us” from our stretch marks, to the shape of our bodies, to the shape of our noses to how much hair we have. It is what makes us beautiful in our own way.
We make a garment look good, not the other way ‘round. We look our best and are at our best when we feel and are living at our best.
So ‘wear yourself’ with pride because you have the power to define yourself. Wear a dress because you like it, not because you want to look like someone else or because the media says it’s hip. Aim to be comfortable in your own skin, kick those negative thoughts in the arse and press on!

Thanks for reading.

If you have anything you’d like to share or if you’d like to add in your opinion, please do so! I’d love to hear from you.


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